does your dream girl include someone who would give you an ultimatum and "force" you to decide between your dreams and her based on finances? that should be a big red flag on the future of the relationship. do you see her as marriage material and spending 50 or more years with her day in and day out? if not, then ride the relationship for what it is worth and follow your dreams. if so, then find that happy balance so you can mutually co-exist with your individual desires and enjoyment.
all of the advise given on her is dead on. i come from a VERY solid relationship. my wife has supported be through decades of chasing a music career in many different forms and mind you that she is a pianoist and had those very same desires. not that we didn't have "discussions" about all of that over the years, but it came down to wanting to see the other happy as much as we wanted to be happy ourselves. then add on that almost to the minute i gave up the music career, all of my creative focus went back into the car i had sitting around forever and this site and creating the VKG with the other guys and...you get the point. everyone has to have their outlet or those feelings come out in other ways...usually bad ones.
live your life the way you need to, not the way someone tells you you need to.
and pics could sway any of our advise.
August 27th 2005, 11:50
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